If you’ve ever lost your sense of direction, your self-confidence, or doubted yourself, you’re not alone. Our lives are constantly changing and even though we try to rebuild and keep things as they are, there will be times when we feel like we are falling apart. During these times, you must show resilience and the ability to bounce back from the problems we face. Three months ago I had this feeling and that’s why I made a promise to myself; I promised to take the next three months and improve as much as possible.
Why make such a promise?
Making that promise seemed like a hurdle, but it’s worth it. There are common cases where people will take on this challenge: a breakup, the end of a friendship or it could even be due to the pandemic and you feel trapped in the loss of freedom. It can be hard to come to terms with what made you feel this way, but it’s important to identify the cause and tackle it head-on and be able to move on and move past it. For me, it was like putting everything before me and letting people walk all over me, which made me lose my sense of worth and myself. Why three months you ask me? Trying new ways to improve yourself will take time, it’s a process. Developing a new mindset doesn’t happen overnight, thinking a certain way is one thing but you have to be able to believe it.
Where to start?
Allowing yourself to show off can be difficult at first, you may even think that you are self-centered or selfish. I started my self-improvement journey with a fresh new look, I went from an all-brown shadow to a blonde shadow in a matter of hours…a change that was completely against what my stubborn self would do . Take time out of your day to try something new: a new set of nails, eyelash extensions, or even some different makeup. Changing your appearance is a common first step in the right direction to improve yourself, a minor or dramatic change like a different hairstyle can already make you feel like a new person. Buying a new outfit that you thought you’d never be able to pull off or even rearrange your room and space can be a start.
Now that you look like an improved version of yourself, it’s time to feel like one. Through my experience I have found that it is important to establish rules, this can vary from person to person. I deleted my playlist full of sad songs and replaced it with uplifting and uplifting songs because I found that music strongly influences my emotions and who wants to listen to sad songs when trying to create a positive state of mind? Another rule I made for myself was to do more of the things I love, and more often! I started to cook and write more, I even had several treatment days a week. A common rule I’ve seen is that when you’re going through an improvement stage like this, people often debate reaching out to someone, whether it’s an ex who made them feel like this or a toxic friend. . If so, it’s essential that you stay focused and ignore the urges to “fix” things with them and fix yourself.
How to work on your mentality
Working on your mindset is why this process of improvement takes a long time, whether you’re trying to get over someone or something that dragged you down, it’s important to fight those thoughts and emotions. I used a journal to write down my feelings, something about writing on pen and paper and letting the words flow was a way for me to let off steam and let out what really made me feel that way. Mediation can also be a helpful technique for adding calm and a sense of control to your day, allowing you to have complete control over your cluttered mind. I have found that writing positive affirmations and quotes, whether on your notebook notes or in a notebook, and reading them every day helps clear my outlook and makes me see myself and my life differently. Keep a gratitude list! Write down what you are grateful for, it could even be the smallest of things. This will make you realize the positives of your day.
It won’t always be easy!
I admit it was not a steady climb. There were occasional nights where I doubted myself and felt like it just didn’t work like I was still the same shy, fragile girl as before and would never become the ambitious, powerful, and carefree that I aspired to be. Progress isn’t always pretty, but when you finally start believing in yourself and taking that time for yourself, you’ll feel like you can take on the world. You must learn to be dependent on yourself, happiness comes from you and you cannot depend on others all the time. Spend time being so busy improving your life that you’ve completely forgotten what made you feel bad. Focus on your goals, your aspirations, your work and imagine your future self…start acting like them and imagine how successful and happy they are.
What to expect after three months?
These weeks will pass quickly and soon the duration of the challenge will come to an end. My experience with the three-month improvement challenge turned out to be better than I expected, I became the person I wanted to be and adopted a confident and healthy mindset. This challenge made me regain my sense of direction and self-esteem, I accomplished goals I had been pursuing and realized a lot about myself. A lesson I desperately needed to learn was that I had to rely on myself, people came and went and I found myself depending on them, and when they left I went through a cycle of depression, that’s why this challenge intrigued me. So if you ever feel like you got lost, trust me, you haven’t. Try taking three months and you’ll find yourself a better version and you’ll be glad you made that promise.