Breakups are, unfortunately, a normal part of being a teenager. And, at the time, it’s like the end of the world. You give your heart to someone to crush. It’s as if your heart was ripped out of your chest. Your eyes spring up until the cascade of emotions flows for the day.
There are so many ways to deal with this kind of experience. Breakups have been the norm since the dawn of time. Many ways to deal with it have been seen in our lives and on television. There is no wrong answer to dealing with a breakup. You manage it your way. These are just a few ways to deal with grief.
I hope this will help you understand how to handle this difficult time. You have this! You will be fine.
Many new singles just want to be left alone during this time. And that’s perfectly fine. For many people, being a burrito with a big bowl of ice cream is exactly what they need. And that may be the best way to deal with their emotions. Binging your favorite show alone with food could be a way to comfort their aching heart.
Although too much isolation can become unhealthy, a small amount of isolation is perfectly acceptable. They just want to settle down in their own time and space. So bring the ice cream and Netflix. This is the best time to be alone.
Night on the town:
Another good way to cope is to completely distract yourself. This is where your friends come in. They often attack you and take you on something fun. Whether it’s a night out, a road trip or even a quick stop for an ice cream. Your friends are there to help you feel better about yourself and your decisions. They are the perfect distraction.
Going and doing something fun is in no way celebrating the breakup. It’s just so as not to think about the difficulties of the last few days. Once you can open yourself up to pleasure, the sooner you will be happier in your life. Life is not just about pain. Although there will always be pain, be sure to open yourself up to pleasure in the midst of pain.
Talk it over:
Some people need complete separation. Others, however, need this complete closure. Sometimes it’s good to go see your ex and talk about it. Not necessarily to get back together. But, maybe you left the situation angry and confused. Maybe going back and talking about what happened with them can bring closure and comfort to the situation. Once you both understand what happened between you two, you may feel better quickly.
Maybe the breakup was for the best. Or maybe it was too rash a decision. A mature conversation might give you those answers. You won’t know until you try.
Go straight ahead:
There is no right or wrong answer to how fast you move. Maybe the best solution for you is to get back into the dating game right away. Maybe the last relationship had some major issues that you just needed to walk away from. And maybe finding another person to be safe with could be the answer.
It’s your life. No one can judge you on how quickly or how slowly you move forward. It is your heart and your well-being. You do what makes your heart happy. And who knows, maybe the next one you date two days later might be the best thing for you.
Maybe you’re the kind of person who doesn’t need time to heal. Maybe the best thing for you is to just move on with your life. Maybe your ex doesn’t deserve to be mourned. Or maybe you just don’t want to face the collision head-on. Maybe just focusing on school/work will make your heart heal faster. Or maybe just forget your ex ever happened.
Everything you have to do or not do is perfect. It’s your heart and your coping style. Maybe not coping is how you cope. Maybe just going with your lifestyle is the best solution for you. You are young and life keeps moving. Maybe for you, keeping up with life instead of taking a break is what you need.
Breakups are hard no matter what. You could have dated that person for two years or two weeks. Time means nothing when it comes to love. Your coping style is unlike anyone else’s. It’s unique to who you are. All of the above might be for you. Or it could be something completely different. It all depends on you.
It’s your heart and your mind. All these hardships will only make you stronger. Yes, your heart is broken. Yes, it hurt like a brick in the face. But these wounds will heal over time. All you have to do is let your heart heal in whatever way works best for you.