Couples, romance… they are everywhere! We’ve all been “informed” of the fun of being in a relationship, if not by a movie we just watched, then by someone in our household or school. Unfortunately, the opposite – being single – has rarely been shown to be a sign of happiness. Therefore, sometimes in our younger years we may find ourselves believing that we can only be happy with a significant other.
That, my friend, is simply not true.
In this article, I’m going to give you 5 ways to embrace yourself and be happy to be more single. Keep in mind that this doesn’t mean you should never date, just to learn how to be happy with yourself, with or without a significant other. Also, this isn’t a concrete list, so keep an open mind and find other ways to be happy.
Alright, let’s go!
1. You are enough no matter what
It’s so easy to look at this popular couple at school and want what they have; you might think having a significant other would make you cooler or give you a better “high school experience.” However, being in a relationship will not increase your worth or guarantee happiness. Also, the fact that a peer may have a loved one does not make them more or less of a person than you.
As teenagers, we are sometimes misled into believing that dating is essential for happiness or for our social image, but that is simply not true. Dating is a wonderful experience, but only when you really love someone, not when you want a relationship just for fun.
Instead of waiting or having a significant other, we should spend our teenage years learning to grow in self-respect and self-confidence, regardless of the state of our relationship. Why? So that throughout our high school years and beyond, we can become the best version of ourselves and live life to the full without feeling sorry for ourselves just to be single.
Honestly, being single is awesome. You just have to know how to create your own joy!
2. Do you have feelings for anyone?
Ignore this if you are 100% sure the answer is no. But seriously, how are you supposed to be happily single if you have feelings for someone? The purpose of this article is to help you be happy without a partner. However, if you firmly believe that you will be happiest when you have this “someone” by your side, then what are you doing here? Go ask them!
If it’s someone you’re determined to leave, I hope you succeed. It is a wonderful thing that you have set yourself on the path to letting go of the past and living happier lives. Moving on is never easy, but you are much stronger than you think. It will be better because you will make sure of it.
3. Surround yourself with positive, trustworthy people
Being single doesn’t feel so lonely if you have good people around you. When you have friends, you don’t need a loved one to take you shopping, hang out with you, or let off steam. However, it is important that the people you surround yourself with are trustworthy and good to you. Toxic people are not good company, so be careful who you date!
4. Don’t wait for someone to ask you, just go have fun!
People come and go; even the most beloved people in your life won’t stay there forever. Throughout your life, the only person who will always stay with you is yourself. Therefore, it is your responsibility to make the most of what life has to offer and to live as you wish (with or without a lover).
Like flowers? Buy some on the way back. Want to go to a fair this weekend? Ask friends or family members to accompany you. Do you really like this outfit? Just wear it to school and don’t spend all day worrying about people making sarcastic comments about it. Don’t put the fun on hold until you’re in a relationship. Live and enjoy every morsel of joy you can get every day.
5. Start a Glow-Up Challenge
It’s especially gratifying if you just got out of a not-so-wonderful relationship. Starting a glow-up challenge is the perfect opportunity to live better and take a step closer to being the person you want to be. In other words, it’s perfect revenge on someone who made you unhappy: to be so much happier and better off without them.
Think about what you want to improve about yourself. Your state of mind, your lifestyle, your wardrobe, your grades, your social circle? Remember that the real glow is internal, so don’t dwell too much on how you appear on the outside. Be determined, be consistent, and always remember that you are doing this for yourself. Have fun during the trip and I wish you good luck!
Single or not, we all deserve to be happy and confident. I hope the tips I’ve given will help you feel more confident about being single during your teenage years (and beyond). Good luck!