How do we become the best version of ourselves? We can learn, grow, fail, try, we can do many things to become our best selves. We stop growing maybe because we are afraid or embarrassed. We stop growing because we focus too much on what other people think. Here are 10 things you can do to become the best version of yourself you can be.
1. Don’t compare yourself to others
One of the most important things that I think could stunt your growth and mindset is comparing yourself to others. Today’s standards and expectations are so high, and I hate that everyone thinks and believes they have to be like everyone else. You have your own style, your own way of doing things. Everyone is made differently, not a single person is designed to act the same. I cannot stress this enough; Comparing yourself to others hurts you in many ways. Everyone has compared themselves to their friends at one time or another, and it doesn’t feel right. You won’t become the best version of yourself if you keep comparing yourself to others. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you, and I don’t see why we keep comparing ourselves to influencers and people today. I compared myself to my friends, you’re starting to feel empty and not good enough. You feel like you don’t belong and don’t fit in. The only way to become a better person and feel good about yourself is to feel good about yourself. Natural beauty comes from within.
2. Trust is key
Be confident. Be confident in who you are, what you wear, what you stand for. Trust your uniqueness, your differences, your flaws. Embrace your quirky personality, wild hair, big eyes, long neck, and prominent nose. Embrace all that you are because there is no one like you. Wear that outfit you envisioned in your closet. Choose those heels that you think make your feet feel swollen because they don’t for everyone. Once you start learning to love yourself, you gain so much more confidence, you walk proudly with your head held high. Your smile seems brighter, you start to laugh more, and you become less scared and worried about how others see you. When you’re feeling down, start being positive. Start saying yes. Yes, I have confidence in what I wear; yes, I trust who I am. When you embrace all that you are, you start to change the way you see yourself, you start to change your mindset. Once you’re confident, it shows. Others begin to see this confidence in you. Then it just becomes an endless cycle of kindness. People start noticing you more, giving compliments, and it improves your mood. You become your best self when you are confident and smiling.
3. There’s no shame in asking for help.
Sometimes we act like everything is ‘fine’ and ‘ok’, but in reality, it’s far from the case. Ask for help because believe me, everyone has felt the same way at some point in their life. Confused? Ask for clarification. Why do we feel so ashamed when we ask for help? Others have been through the same things, or even worse things than you might think. Everyone fell, and yes, it is embarrassing sometimes. But who cares ? Everyone has been there. We grew up in a world where so many people are accepted for their differences, there should be no shame in asking for help. No one should go through difficult times alone. I encourage you to contact someone if you ever need help.
4. It’s okay to cry
I get it sounds weird, but crying is good for you mentally, emotionally, and physically. It’s so overwhelming to keep it all inside, so much so that it becomes too much to handle, and you cry and break down. It’s quite correct, in fact, it’s good. Sometimes we just need to let it out, and that’s okay. Breakdowns have to happen to rebuild you again. The best thing you can do for your mental state is to make sure you take care of yourself. If that means crying, so be it. You can’t always expect to be well and in good spirits. There will be days when you feel like it will never get better or easier. But, these are also the days when you need to take a step back and re-evaluate. Take the time to breathe, look around you and see where you are. Know, hope and believe that it will get better, it will get easier. Collect your thoughts, reassess your situation, make changes, and move on. Pick yourself up, remember who you were and where you were at your lowest points. This is how you become better and stronger.
5. Get out of the comfort zone
To improve, you have to try new things. You never want to look back and realize that you are the same person as before. Trying new things can sometimes change your mindset. You can be better and improve on who you were by trying new things. When you stay in your comfort zone, you stay in the same mindset. You cannot improve if you stay in one place. I have always struggled to get out of my comfort zone. I realized that if I continue to stay in my comfort zone, I will always have the same mindset of being shy and shy. I will show judgment towards things I have never tried and people I have never met. Getting out of your comfort zone will help you improve your way of thinking while changing the way you try new things.
6. It will happen when it happens
Don’t worry about what will happen, it’s not worth your time. What happens will happen when it is supposed to happen. You can’t always expect the unexpected in life, and you can’t always prepare for it. Sometimes life surprises you. When things don’t go as planned, it can easily become overwhelming to figure out what to do next. Don’t sweat the little things in life, it’s not worth your energy. Sometimes it’s easier if you don’t care about the unimportant things. You can’t always prepare your mind for failure, success, or even guesswork. Life is full of surprises, some are good while others can be life changing. Patience is key when changing your mindset. You have to wait and be patient for important life-changing decisions. For now, we only live in the moment.
7. Let things go
You cannot live your life holding every thought and feeling that you have ever thought or felt inside. It’s not healthy and it doesn’t improve you as a person. You don’t become a better version of yourself when you hold grudges and have deep feelings that cause inner heaviness. Some things just have to be let go. We should learn from what we think and feel because we become better through it. Sometimes the heaviest things weigh us down and prevent us from moving forward. It keeps us from seeing the hope and the light in the end. You’ll come to a point in your life where all the heaviness will be too much to handle, and you’ll finally be able to say, “I can’t take it anymore. I need to let go. Let go of judgment, anxieties, guilt, grief, pain, hate, anger, let go of the past. You need to focus on the present moment in order to become the best version of yourself that you can be. Because when this is all over, will you focus on how you felt or who you became because of it?
8. Don’t be afraid to express
Never be sorry for expressing what you think, feel, say or do. I prefer to express what I really want to say and feel rather than keep it hidden inside. I regret not expressing how I felt to a friend or someone I met at that time. You shouldn’t need to hide what you want or feel like expressing. Express what you think and feel when you think and feel it. Express your concerns and concerns. How can you become the best version of yourself if you don’t feel like you can truly express how you feel or who you are? Everyone should be able to express themselves without feeling limited and in danger. Change the way you think about people and new experiences. By expressing what you think and feel, you are able to change the way you perceive things, eventually becoming the best version of yourself you can be.
9. Healing takes time
We are meant to change, grow and learn. We are meant to heal from what tears and tears us apart. We are meant to grow by learning and trying new things. May we not forget where we came from as we heal, change and grow. We must feel what we need to feel to know and understand those familiar feelings. It’s the only way to grow and learn to be different, but better. Healing, learning and growing is a process. Learning to let go and heal from something traumatic is a long process. Sometimes you don’t give yourself enough credit. How strong you are to go through everything you’ve been through and still be able to get through it.
Sometimes, to have a good time, you have to take advantage of the time and the moments you have. I challenge you to laugh and smile more. To appreciate what and who we have around us. To experience the good and the bad, the horrible and the ugly. When we live and really know what it’s like to feel those things, that’s when we know we’ve become better people because of them. We understand and acknowledge what it took to get us to where we are now. We laugh at the past because we realize how naive and stupid we were, how innocent we were to the world. We remember all the little choices that seem so unimportant today. These choices do not compare to how we perceive things today. Change the way you see yourself. These small, life-changing decisions change the way we need to see ourselves to become a better version of what we see in the mirror. Who do you see?