Sometimes it’s good to know that you will always have your friend right next to you, always there to support you. You can always rely on your daughters for comfort as well as confidence and depend on them. However, for some people, it is difficult to have friendships with girls. Maybe it’s because they’ve been through toxic friendships or they don’t know how to start a friendship with other girls. Some girls are just comfortable having friendships with guys, and that’s okay. I consider having a male best friend a good thing in life. Sometimes girls can create too much drama, which is why I think having multiple guys who are your friends is a good thing. Guys are good at having friendships, they are more reliable than we think. Here are some great qualities of having a male best friend, no matter what type of friendship you have.
1. No Judgment
Guys are never quick to judge when it comes to the timing of a friendship. They generally do not start on assumptions, but rather on first impressions. Depending on where and how you met, this person usually introduces the dynamic and type of friendship you both or all share. Some friendships between men and women are close enough to joke or insult each other sarcastically. Others are deep enough to have life-changing conversations.
Relatively new friendships consist of light-hearted jokes, laughs, and lots of hanging out. The difference between a girl/guy friendship and any other friendship is that not everyone in the friendship needs a real reason to hang or talk to each other. The dynamic works, and all friendships should be similar that way. There is no extra effort needed to put in the friendship everything is rather cold. Most guys don’t judge their girlfriends, no matter how new or old the friendship is.
I know I can tell my best friend anything because he just listens and won’t judge me for it. We know each other well enough to know when each of us crosses the line. Sure, we push each other, but in the end, it’s about being there for each other. He knows that I will come to see him if I ever need advice or a second opinion, and vice versa. Sometimes it can get deep and really personal, but I think that’s what binds us together. What I love about our friendship is that we have this type of friendship where we can be personal and deep with each other, but we can also be silly and weird. It’s the balance that keeps a girl/guy friendship together.
2. No drama
A girl/guy friendship doesn’t have as much drama as a normal “girl” friendship. As far as I know, I don’t think guys really like drama, or at least they don’t participate in it. If there’s any drama in a girl/guy friendship, it’s the fights over where to go out or where to eat. If you’re someone who’s been through a lot of toxic friendships, having a male friend might help ease the trauma that all the toxicity has put on you. Having a friend (or a few) is comforting and not as stressful as having a bunch of girls as friends. In a friendship full of girls, one can compare oneself to others, which can cause drama and gossip. Having a male friend eases the tension and stress that comes with any type of friendship between girls. Guys can be lighthearted and fun to hang out with.
For example, when my best friend and I talk, we avoid the drama of whatever we’re talking about. Most of our conversations aren’t even about the drama of our lives, we’re just trying to check on each other. We try to keep our conversations light and positive, and if either of us is negative or unsure about something, we uplift each other. He knows that I think too often, so he will remind me once in a while not to say bad things about myself. We are there for each other for our successes and our failures. It makes me so happy when he texts me when something good happened or he accomplished something. That’s the best thing I would want from a friendship. I’m happy to be part of my best friend’s success, and I’m happy that I’m the one he comes to when he wants to share something good, sad, funny, or weird.
3. Being weird
Being weird with a guy isn’t as embarrassing as you might think. Depending on the intimacy of your friendship, being weird gives you the opportunity to be yourself. The nice thing about having male friends is that most of them forget things that you might have found very embarrassing at the time. Guys tend to remember things that made them laugh, things that were memorable in friendship. So while you thought you did something super embarrassing that time, they probably didn’t. Being yourself is key to any kind of friendship, and if that means being weird around people, so be it. Everyone is bound to do something weird in their life, why not do it with your friends? Being and acting genuinely with yourself is the best thing in any friendship, it makes it more enjoyable and memorable.
It makes me smile whenever my best friend and I get goofy with each other. I find it so relaxing because whenever I feel down or upset I know I can always count on him to make me laugh or cheer me up. Honestly, it fills me with pure joy when we laugh at silly jokes or memories because that’s just our personality. We’re both funny people, and we both like to be sarcastic with each other, pushing buttons at each other until we move on to a different topic. I have nothing but love for my best friend because I’m such a weird person with a sarcastic sense of humor, and I’m glad he understands that.
What I like the most about having friendships with guys is that I can be honest with them. The difference between being honest with your girl and being honest with a guy is that the guy friend will give you straight. They won’t beat around the bush or try to hide from the obvious. They will give you their honest opinion, even if you disagree with them. Having a friendship with a guy is probably the best thing about honesty, because he wants to be honest with you just enough to show you that he cares about him without you hating him. In return, the closer you get to your friends, the more dependent you will be on them and on them on you. With honesty comes trust, you need to be able to trust them in order to continue being honest with each other.
I still feel unsure about being honest with my best friend. Most of the time, I’m afraid that if I’m too honest it will get too personal. However, when I just hit him with brutal honesty, he knows not to take it personally. I guess we’ve known each other a long time to know that anything we say to each other won’t scare the other. He and I know that whenever we talk to each other about anything, it all comes down to respect. We may not totally agree with everything we have to say on the topic or topic, but we respect everyone’s decisions, choices, and opinions. It’s like saying, “Look, we can be honest with each other, but don’t take it too seriously. I always respect you as a best friend and person, I may not agree with you. For me, that’s absolutely fine. I know not everyone will agree with what I have to say, not even my closest friends. Yet that is the goal of friendship. It is to be there despite the differences and differences of opinion.
All friendships should be easy going. However, when the guys are involved, it’s a bit different. The guys are wild and crazy, but it should be even easier and fun. Having male friends can present plenty of opportunities for wild rides, fun adventures, and memorable late-night trips. Having friendships with guys is exciting and so unexpected in so many ways. Everyone should be lucky enough to have a good friend or even a great best friend. I look back and realize now how amazing it was to have guys in my friendship. They understood me, I knew I could trust them, and I even told them things I could never say out loud. I never get tired of talking to them, even if they are miles apart or sitting right next to me. I still smile whenever I see a text from them, even when they text me while I’m writing this article.
What I like most about my friends is that they are very easy going. They’re not complicated, but they can be boring, and that comes with the territory. My friends always came to my house just to relax and eat. They were coming, stealing and eating my food. Now he’s a good best friend. I think back to those moments so often and realize that most of them were unexpected.
That’s the great thing about having guy friends. The girls have a plan, the guys play everything by ear. The best part about those unexpected times with the guys was that we didn’t have to talk about anything big or important in our lives, we didn’t have to gossip. All we did was laugh, talk about stupid things I can’t even remember, and enjoy each other’s company while watching each other. I know it sounds so corny and heartfelt, but that’s what we did. That and playing games that would last for hours.
I know not everyone has the luck or the opportunity to find friends who are guys. Some of you are even afraid to start a friendship with a guy, but you shouldn’t be. I love having my girlfriends by my side, but sometimes it’s nice to be laid back and chill with someone else. It’s really hard not to keep playing with the girls. There’s so much comparison and effort involved in these friendships if you really think about it. To be honest, I actually value my friendship with my guy friends more than I do with girls. Having someone who brings out the best in you is one thing, but having someone who repeatedly makes you laugh and brings out the best in you every day is a whole different story.