In high school, everyone dreams of falling in love and graduating alongside the love of their life. As an adult, you also dream of falling in love and marrying the love of your life. Although most people don’t plan to make their high school relationships serious, some get caught up in the feelings and emotions of their love. The love you feel is real in both parts of your life, the priorities are different.
Love is a complicated thing. In high school, most relationships don’t last long. But in adult life, most of the time, you’re trying to make those relationships last. Love is real no matter what. But there are going to be differences depending on your stage of life.
In high school, you have so many priorities of your own. Grades, sports, college prep, family, and more. Most relationships happen in the school atmosphere, which makes it easier to spend time together. But that doesn’t mean your partner should be your number one priority. While your relationship should be a big priority, in high school, it shouldn’t be the first. Your future may or may not include your partner. And at this age, your personal future should be your top priority. And that could very well hurt or delay or relationship. But your business first. Circumstances may arise where you both stay in the same state for college. Or even go to the same college. But we can’t always count on that.
Your love for this person is undeniable. And you can certainly plan your future with them in mind. Both of you can apply to the same college. You can choose the same career path. You might even move to another city together. But as soon as your life goals change. Or the time when you don’t enter the same college. This is when you may or may not have to make a very difficult decision. Your love might be strong enough to keep you together. Or maybe not.
Priorities are one of the hardest things to figure out in the younger stages of life. But in high school, your priority should be your future. As difficult as it may be, your future could be different from that of your partners.
As an adult, you still have many other priorities. However, many of your big life choices have already been made. You are either in college or in your career. You probably left mom and dad’s house. So, maybe you have time in your life for a relationship.
Once you’re in your 20s or 30s, you’re probably at the point in your life where you want real companionship. Once you are mature enough, you can manage the well-being of two people. Once you have a relationship as an adult, you have a lot to think about. Your future, that of your partner, your finances, your career, etc. And as an adult, you start thinking about kids, home, money. And once you have defined your career and education, you have the opportunity to plan your future with someone else. This is the time in your life when you don’t want to live alone.
For men, their early adulthood is to start their career, get married, have children, etc. For women, their biological clocks are triggered telling them to have children. They also want their career to take off, marriage, etc. And as adults, your new priority should be planning for your future. Either alone or with someone else. Most likely, you want it to be with someone else.
Generally, in adult relationships, they last longer, they are more serious and there is more planning for the future. In adolescence, relationships are more fun. As adults, you more often want companionship and a lasting partnership. And as adults, you have the means to plan for a safer future. And planning that future with your loved one…it’s one of the most exciting things you can do.
Love is one of the most desired things on earth. It is in our nature to desire company. But these days, love is fun. But you also have to be realistic. Your high school partner is someone you love very much. Your adult partner whom you might love as much or more. But each stage of life has its priorities. But there is one thing you should always keep in mind.
Love is one of the most beautiful things you can feel. This can sometimes be painful, even excruciating. But the love will always be there. Love will always heal. Love always comes for you. Love can sometimes hurt. Love can leave. But, one day, one way or another, you will find the love you deserve.